We Think We Know

The mother of one of the Columbine high school killers has lived with grief and shame since the massacre. 

“I think we like to believe that our love and our understanding is protective, and that ‘If anything were wrong with my kids, I would know.’ But I didn’t know, and it’s very hard to live with that,” she said.

“I felt that I was a good mom ... That he would, he could talk to me about anything,” she continued. “Part of the shock of this was that learning that what I believed and how I lived and how I parented was an invention in my own mind. That it was a completely different world that he was living in.”

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Now that's a sobering thought.  How many parents think they know but are so way off base?