Are children a chesed project to their parents? Although parents do vast amounts of chesed for their children, they are still not viewed or referred to as a "project." What is a project? I looked it up and found this definition: a planned piece of work that has a specific purpose (such as to find information or to make something new) and that usually requires a lot of time. More simply, it's a planned undertaking.
Raising children is certainly a project, by that definition. It's a job, the details are planned, there is a purpose, i.e. to raise a G-d fearing mentch, and it sure does take a lot of time. It is usually a collaborative effort on the part of parents and the school. And still, we don't refer to child rearing as a project. Why is that?
I think it's because in business and science, a project is defined as a collaborative enterprise. A school project might be a book report or historical research. Projects are often or usually associated with work, school or volunteering.
I suppose that is why I am surprised when people use the term "project" for taking care of an elderly family member, even those who do so lovingly. Any thoughts about this?
Is eating dinner, going to the bathroom, and sleeping a project? Our families are our lives, not our projects. The projects are outside ourselves and our families are part of us.
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