I've reached a point where I am less tolerant of yenting. I am not talking about lashon hara. It might even be positive remarks. But it's about other people.
Note, I say "less tolerant." That doesn't mean I eschew it altogether. It means that it often makes me uncomfortable and wanting to change the subject.
I am all for relating good stories that are inspiring, uplifting, or otherwise edifying, about other people. I am also in favor of taking an interest in relatives and what they're up to in life.
I am talking more about ... yenting. What other people said, did, looked like, without much purpose.
Yes, I know, there's the story about the takana made in shul, no more talking (of course, the talking was not during davening but before and after) about mundane matters. And as a result, nobody knew who needed a job or a shidduch or a place to live. So they rescinded the takana. Because repeating information that can help someone is a chesed.
Maybe it's an idea to think before speaking - is this useful? encouraging? otherwise worthwhile?
Dec 25, 2014
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