There was a sad write-up about the fifth person to die in the Har Nof shul massacre, Chaim Rothman, who lingered for almost a year after the attack last November. Mishpacha interviewed his wife who said a most remarkable thing.
Someone commented to her, "Risa, poor thing, you're in limbo." And she could have remained in this situation for years, with her husband comatose, terribly injured, and she raising her large family, the youngest is five, on her own.
But Mrs. Rothman said, "That comment didn't sit well with me, and the next day I realized why. I realized, no, I'm not in limbo. There's no such thing. This 'limbo' place is exactly the place where I'm supposed to do my avodas Hashem, not waiting for the time when it will be better. Someone who's waiting for a shidduch or a baby or any other yeshua, this is where you have to do your avoda - in the waiting, not when it gets better. Limbo is now, limbo is here, where I have to develop myself, not this happy picture of where I would like to see myself."
When I repeated this idea to someone, their response was, she IS in limbo (definition: an uncertain situation that you cannot control and in which there is no progress or improvement), it's her attitude about it that's good.
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