I read in an Ami magazine article about the recently departed Vizhnitzer Rebbe z'l, that he when someone came to him with a kvittel, no matter his background, and he saw someone older than 18 on the kvittel, he would question why the person wasn't married and ask what was being done to pursue a shidduch.
Someone had written down several bachurim in their earlier twenties in the kvittel and he asked, "Why aren't they married yet?"
The man answered that they hadn't found their shidduch yet, to which the Rebbe said:
"Have you ever seen someone come to shul on the first day of Succos with a nice lulav but no esrog because he could not find a nice esrog? Of course not. The same Torah which says you need to take an esrog on Succos is the same Torah which says (in the mishna) to be married by 18. You must pursue a shidduch the same way you make sure to have an esrog for Succos for both are the ratzon ha'Borei!"
For a change, I have no comment :)
There is probably a market for the Tee shirt in the picture.
ReplyDeleteI recently spoke to a Chassidishe woman who is horrified that people today need shidduch resumes to get married. I suppose that if every bachur were to follow the direction of a Rebbe or Rosh Yeshiva, there would be none of this nonsense that the girl was not good enough for one reason or another. The Rebbe would push the bachur right past all the shtuss. Bachrim now hold out until they get exactly what they want. They are in no rush to get married.