Obedience isn't a popular term these days. How many parents have obedience as a child-rearing goal?
How many parents tell their child to do something and then qualify it by saying, "okay?" Yes, I know, it's a way of eliciting a response to make sure the child heard but parents of previous generations didn't find it necessary to say, "okay?" when they told their children to do something.
The Jewish people were highly praised for first saying "naaseh" (we will do), and then "nishma" (we will hear). Our relationship with our parents mirrors our relationship with G-d.
How's that for a chinuch principle - our kids have to know that regardless as to whether they hear a reason from us, or like the reason (if they get one), they have to do it! The home is not a democracy. Instructions are not up for negotiations.
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