tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-836379088405065709.post4426945429662796685..comments2023-09-05T11:57:38.728-04:00Comments on My Perspective: An Upside-Down WorldCritiquerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14788007492647988964noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-836379088405065709.post-53692522727790603632013-08-23T13:37:43.500-04:002013-08-23T13:37:43.500-04:00There is often more to the story than meets the ey...There is often more to the story than meets the eye. It's human nature for a mother to have a strong desire to look after the home and nurture her children, and so even mothers who work will typically juggle the work and spending time with the children (along with cooking and homemaking). If she's leaving the mothering to her husband and almost completely absent, it may be because although she would like to be the nurturer, she is emotionally lacking and finds it all too much, and so the husband is the one who compensates for that. This dynamic has nothing to do with whether the husband is learning. They could both be working in order to support their family, and the mother could "opt out" of the typical motherly role by saying she needs a break after her hard work (which may have some truth to it), or "opt in" by being around in the home every moment she can.<br /><br />As for the "husband learning": As I understand, when this was done in the past, the young couple would stay with their in-laws, or receive financial support from their in-laws ("kest"). This meant that the in-laws, along with other members of the extended family, were directly on hand to help out with childcare. But in our times, when getting married means living in your own apartment, when people are spread out and often not even living near other family members, and when having a learning husband means the wife working, and without much help from extended family for childcare, different coping solutions must be found.Yehoishophot Oliverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16906934928426540018noreply@blogger.com