tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-836379088405065709.post3302458037370086948..comments2023-09-05T11:57:38.728-04:00Comments on My Perspective: Bechira, not VictimhoodCritiquerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14788007492647988964noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-836379088405065709.post-73245079962104641172012-08-26T18:13:24.131-04:002012-08-26T18:13:24.131-04:00Unfortunately the frum world has mixed messages su...Unfortunately the frum world has mixed messages such as sit and learn Torah full time but at the same time, send all your children to Yeshiva, invite lots of Shabbos guests and feed them the finest, agree to finance your children while they sit and learn, etc. There is also a mixed message about choice. If we realize that we chose this frum life and it was not forced upon us, we can view it without victim-hood. G-d did not punish us by giving us this religion and all the hard work that it entails. If we chose a life of Torah over a life of materialism, we cannot be upset when we must tailor our material choices to the income that we have. Many young people who grow up frum see leaving frumkeit as the only "choice" that they have. They don't see that they can tailor their own frum experience because the frum world over-emphasizes conformity. rosiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03750230430610565818noreply@blogger.com